O.P.
There's 3 utorrent solutions out there (umonitor, then another passive monitoring thing that works via safari and this) and I use both umonitor and uremote.
Would you mind posting a screenshot of your uRemote settings page?
Do you use an internal IP, or external IP?
Does it work with authentication or guest?
Does it work on wifi or 3G or both?
Do you have any advice for getting it working, because it just refuses to connect to my uTorrent even though uMonitor and webui both work fine. As you said, the uRemote interface is better and I prefer to use that.